a friend of my mom having some psychological disorders since at least 20 years ago, i don't know which type he belongs to, to me, i think he has a very low self-esteem....
he loves to gamble when he was young, and he is very bad temper man, he gambled till he lose a lot of money, till the wife divorce with him, and children refuse to stay with him. i don't really know the story in detail, as I know, there was once, he went for a dental, his daughter working there, when he was registering, the daughter ask him what is his name, can you imagine? the daughter act like a stranger and ask the father for his name, i think it shown how much she hate him....
due to family problem, he has some disorders and has to visit psychologist often. now, he has a GIRLFRIEND, they were together for around 8 years, this lady has 2 son, and they both got married and have children too. they lady is a very nice and soft person, i never see her talk loudly or scold anyone, this uncle found a really good wife this time...
the sons of this lady respect this uncle, and they are happy that their mom have someone to accompany, they treat him very well, when he got operation, they planned everything for him, and cook nutritious food for him, the grandchildren are calling him grandpa.....
but now, the uncle always want to sell his house and balik kampung, and seperate with this lady, he says that this lady always go to his son's house for dinner, go shopping with her daughter-in-law, he feels very lonely. this uncle refuse to go to the son's house with this lady, he always said that they are her son, not his.....this and that.....
and i notice that, everytime he said he want to balik kampung and seperate with this lady, is because he feels self-comtempt..... when this lady's son opening a new dim sum shop, bought an expensive car for this lady, decorate the house and renovate a little bit for chinese new year without using his money.....
he would think:
"why my children don't treat me like how they treat me?"
"they are not my children, they are hers"
"she can live better without me"
my mom and other friends said that this uncle think a lot, don't understand why he want to think that much this and that, for me, i think that we can't use our perception to look at his problems.... yes, for us, he is really think too much, but don't forget, he got depression, if he can think the way we think, he won't get depression right?
i understand his feelings, cause i used to think a lot last time, and had all the negative thoughts, till i lose something that is really important, i regret... we must really appreciate what we are having now, because, at the end, we are the one who suffer....
no one can help him, only himself, if he don't try to step out from the frame, his life would just end this way... same to anyone, and i tried really hard to do this, even now...
because, i don't want to lose anyone anymore....
